The Value of Verbals

0 Approaches

Improv Body Language Project - Approach 3 set or people and do something weird. No spoken language only BL only. Some examples: a person comes into a group having a convo and nods head listening to everyone. Or a person enters convo and goes to sleep. Another example, a girl in elevator keeps looking up the ceiling facing the wall confusing the people.

Mine was about hitting on girls in on campus using only my BL. Failed so I changed it to following girls and be flirtatious and friendly instead without making a word.

What I learn:

1. I took speaking for granted. It's so difficult to not come off as weird and meet people without any verbal game / or speech for that matter. 
2. Deeply now understand people's social boundaries and how people are unlikely to chat you up when you invade their boundary. 
3. Deeply understand the "awkward silence"
4. Deeply understand that out of the norm situations adds humor to the day
5. People are easy to approach as long as you make small talk or say anything.

No fear in doing the project. Felt lazy not approaching because I was too focus on my project. Can't switch my focus from project to approach cute girl. Result = anger. Consequence = Dove into pick up material and going to put some action tonight.

Missed chances to approach same girl hit on whom is with her friend. Missed girl whom approached before at cafeteria because too caught up on project.


Edit: I'm back from the bar (McF). As usual. Lots of guys who don't know how to dance. Music always loud (highly recommend ear plugs). Only me and wing are the most intelligent ones who have ear plugs. Ratio sucks. Most girls are not even HB6's.

Wingman got cockblocked by an AFC black guy. Wing met lots of his school friends. Wing also danced with a girl who had a bf.

I was nervous as hell to try approaching girls because I'm afraid there will always be a guy there or that she's taken but to my surprise I've seen particular girls dancing with various dudes or leaving the bar not with the dude. Slutty...

I failed miserably. Low energy. Didn't approach. Leave this shit on the web I don't want to be a pussy anymore.

Don't Get Laid / BS Pickup Frames

1 Approach / 1 #

Lunch time. Called up a girl I met some weeks ago through cold approach. Got the answering machine again. She didn't replied to text either. I just left a voicemail about wanting to meet up with her again and have lunch.

1. Eating lunch by myself. Spot a girl sitting by herself by a corner. Went up and said, "I hate eating alone. May I join you?" She no doubly let me. Pretty cute girl with "high standards."

She scoffs at my question "Did you go to homecoming?" Says she's not involve at school and that it's lame. She asks me many question to start pickup the convo.

My mood - sleepy tired. Restless...

Asks me questions like am I in any clubs? I said no and told her why. She said that's sad.

Lots of silences while eating. My brain probably was not working. I didn't have anything interesting to say at all. She talked most of the time and she was so cool.

Saw a friend and greeted him. Talk a bit. Trying to gain social proof. Friend was a chode of course awkwardly standing there when he should have left sooner.

I ask her is she wants to walk with me after eating and being full and lazy. She says, "No, I'm lazy." I persist once more later asking her to walk and she says "No, bro, I'm lazy." Told her fine, I'll walk along to relieve this tension I'm having. Really had tension because I made this approach so slow and dull. She says I'm weird. Number closed and walk away awkwardly. She was tired by the end trying to keep the convo up and she lost attention on me and focused on her phone. I knew it was over... She was definitely DHV and I can't beat that. I'm not putting her up the pedestal its just the facts. There's no attraction here. I need to work on myself...

Dad calls and says he is going to work so I thought I have the house to myself. An idea popped up; call this girl and ask her if she wants to come over and fuck...

Felt nervous but finally dialed. Told her about my tension and that I'm "dying to get laid." She laughs and said that's gross and how its rude of me and how I shouldn't have said that and that I should know better being a psych major That she barely even know me. That I should find someone else with lower standards. Said she thought I was different... Hung up on me when I was responding. I was hurt and she was right.

-HAD to text her and tell her sooooo SORRY

Now I feel even more like shit. Thinking - fuck all these Pickup material. It's making me worst with women than ever! All this talk about being alpha and having strong frame don't mean shit because there isn't any experiences/references to back up these states. Fucking BS. So I was pushing the interaction right? Hell yeah but fuck it's not turning out as I wanted. Too complex! Was following my intuition but the logic slipped. I fucked up. I'm speechless and confused. How do these pua's get away with all their crazy stories? All this stuff is bullshit as in terms of reteaching this stuff to someone who is a loser. None of it matter. This is the 4th time I screw up something with a girl because I was too "horny."

Notes

• Change my approach
• Stop thinking about getting laid
• Create high standards
• Experience high standards
• Following spontaneity/intuition isn't always the best solution because logic/reasoning fails
• Need to work on myself 110%

Working Towards Abundance Mentality

3 Approaches, 1 fb

I sure love to feel important... Sang my heart out and this will be the song that the teacher recommends me doing for the upcoming class concert. Easy decision.

Agreed to continue this quest with wingman to do daygame at 1pm. He had errands and parking was tough so we started exactly on 3 o clock. Only 1 hour to do game before my Improv class at 4.

While waiting I kept kinda busy by doing some errands but looking back I should have called him earlier to see what's up because time was dragging along and I don't know whether I should go game without him or wait for him.

Chody self said wait for him and keep busy and so I did just that. Next time I'll just game and not make excuses and next time I'll just contact him right away. I know he wanted me to be at least approaching cause he called and asked if I did anything. I told him I was talking to a dude, really was though but I think I chose the safe route...

1. Forgot that right before we scheduled to meet up I was on the phone again with my wingman. He said I didn't sound pump and was right because I've been waiting for him! (NEVER WAIT). Cute girl passed by and I told him I'm going to Go (Yay, recovered from yesterday!). Put him on speakers, told him to not make a sound and I go.

"Hey you're cute..." She turns and smile before entering the door. She was walking quite fast. Caught up ask "Where are you going? I've never been in this building before show me around." She says she needs to pick up a check and she has class. I ask for phone number on the spot while she keeps walking up the stairs. She turns around and said sorry.

-Later saw her talking to a friend in the cafeteria. She lied about having class.

I kept at it and introduced myself and she exchanged hers. "I'll see you around I said with a smile." Back to the phone I was crackling + had a boost of energy. Wingman said I was being too submissive because I asked if I can talked to her - I replied that I didn't remember saying that. Guess I was too into the moment. Another cute girl but too petite walks by and while talking on the phone I just make a comment on how she was running late. She said she's picking up a check just like the other girl. Hmmm I wonder what check?

These contagious approaches just merely breaks the ice for future interactions.

-Decided to opt out of an older blondie while waiting for wingman to finish his approach. He # closed.

2. Saw a white girl sitting by herself in the corner. Since the campus was kind of dead I go with ease (been there before when it's all dead and you finally find a target but you BB out, but not this time!). Got closer, was drawn to her blue eyes. Noticed she was a classmate.

-Time up. Wingman came back with another number, Asian. Went to class together and he got to see and participate within the improves :)

Went indirect by asking if she was in my class. Asked about assignments. Joke how I should have sat next to her because she's so smart and on top of things. Closer glance, her teeth were crooked... We talked about class. Glad I threw in topic about sex addiction therapist when she said she wanted to become an addiction therapist. Just trying to get the juices flowing.

She talked most of the time - I guess she really wanted someone to talk to the whole day. She allured that she had a bf so I eased off by just getting her facebook cleverly when we were talking about networking.

3. Walking to car after the very last class. Was really butthurt seeing the hot girl that I hit on from class avoid me by sitting elsewhere and during class just chatting away with random guy.

Realize how butthurt I am over something stupid because she had rejected me before (bf) and it made me stronger. I told myself patience is a virtue. If I happen to see her again than good if not than so be it. Stop being clingy to people you barely even know! I told myself.

To the car notice girl behind me. She walks by I see her backpack. "Crazy back pack there" (some cartoon character, yellow dog from cartoonetwork. Talked about back pack and then cartoons. Made a deep remark of there's a kid in everyone of us to calibrate when she said I guess I'm still a kid because I watch cartoons.

Introduction. She ask about class and major. Heading different way I ejected reminding myself to not be clingy. To not always ask for something from an approach such as fb or #. Was butthurt remmeber? Patience is a virtue. Ended up walking to my car which was parked right next to hers lol. I kinda sensed that she thought I was going to ask for her number but I didn't so that was an interesting experience.

Didn't number close. Patience is a virtue. There are plenty of girls out there. Abundance... Got home and got a silly feeling that I should have gotten this dark hair girl's number because who knows what this interaction could turn into...

Observations

• Balance patience with aggressiveness. Aggressiveness can turn into neediness.
• Some girls who are alone will not freely give out their number. They are tied to group mentality. To win this one, must win the group + approach group.
• New experiences like having a friend/wingman go to improv class with you makes the day awesome. 

Learning to Work Harder and then Play Hard

Sitting here 2:49 am writing my blog of yesterday which was 2 hours and 49 minutes ago...

0 Approaches

Normal Day Overview

Woke up early - Go to work - Go to class - Half asleep in class - Get out

Wingman calls randomly. I tell him I couldn't do anything today I'm just too sleepy, tired, my head hurts and I'm cold. Talked and talked on the phone.

He challenges me to approach because he hasn't seen me approach yet but I walked by like 3 girls who seemed interesting but I couldn't make the move. Too caught up on the phone and myself. Just not use to it.

Sucks to let a wingman down when he's feeling pumped but my priority was the paper that I needed to write. Also wanted to go home to take a power nap.  I pretty much pussied out today and that was a great challenge that I passed up.

Told him we can do this thing tomorrow.

When I got home I felt the urgency to somehow make up this regret by studying pick up so I dove 100% of my attention to Ross Jefferies affirmation exercise randomly as a review.

Promised myself that I would finish this paper even if I have to stay up late and here I am after writing that paper. Still need to work on it more though.

Listening: Affirmations, Tony Robbin's Quantifier
Reading: Feel the Fear, Do it Anyways

Observations

• Girls like to talk fun. They like the fun vibe. Girls switch topics quickly. Girls like to talk (period). Girls should chase Guys and not be chased.
• True tests come right at me randomly, I should think critically and challenge it instead of letting my auto-pilot mind go on retreat mode
• When I opt out not listening to my mind a few times I continue that terrible cycle and get AA
• Work harder then and then play hard 

Don't Wait - Let Spontaneity do the Work

2 Approaches / +1 facebook close, + 1 # close

1. After class sat down at the stairs chilling until next class. Turned over left side and spotted a cute girl. Thought she was a freshman but found out she was a junior. She had slight make up and looked really adorable and cute.

My mind kept saying go tell her, "What's up girlfriend?" About 2-3x before I made my body move. Just went over spotted some dudes smoking above and could be watching but I ignored. It was only me and her in my world.

Said the line and she looked puzzled. Said jk! and we introduced each other. Convo was light and bit dull. Talked about the weekend off and random stuff that came to my head lol. Like what did you buy? Where does your mother buy food?

It was morning after all and I didn't have that much energy. She was cool answering all my random questions and smiling. She called over a friend. I didn't want any awkwardness so I asked who's Nick?

Said hi to Nick and the two just carried off on their convo about black friday. Nick made good eye contact between us two. One time I asked her why she returned the xbox and she didn't make eye contact with me and explained. I sort of teased her but it didn't go anywhere when said it's a man thing you wouldn't know. She was playful talking about man things like did you get a man thong? Whitie tighties?

Pretty cool and casual girl but she has a bf. Didn't know why when I left after getting her fb since she has a bf that I told her how "I'm a noobie at relationships." She asks why I said "I never had a gf." Left on a bad note!

2. After class again walked by a cute girl. I let her past. Then I thought twice and looked back. My brain was telling me go approach! You have to approach every girl you are attracted to! I felt a rush and excited and also somewhat worried that I have to listen to this body tell me to approach every single girl! Something I'm not use to! But I'm loving this spontaneity!

Chased her to parking lot. Shouted about 5 feet away, "Hey adorable." She turns around and stops. I went up and I think just ask for her number right away. She said I have a bf. I said "You can have 2 bf" jokingly and then ended up saying jk again... Laughing at my own terrible jokes lol or more like nervous laughter. She stood awhile like she was hooked. Ask for my name asked if I was Chinese. Ask what class I was. She looked like a graduate student but she was really just a sophmore who barely knows English.

We would agree to teach each other languages. +1 solid number because there was a reason for her to see me again.

Observations/Summary

• Girls digging my swag (confident, self-assured self) - I just know it when they make eye contact while I'm singing my heart out. Another girl was interested who asked me if I was going to audition for next semester.
• Even waking up to pee is spontaneity at work! Just blurted out what I wanted to say in class. "Hey do you want me to record you since I missed up last time?"
• Mind suggests approaching instead of retreating. 
• Opt out on 2-3 more random approaches
• Currently listening to Tony Robbin's "Live Life with Passion" audios

Library

4 Approaches

1. Made eye contact for like a few secs. Went back and told her she was adorable. She hooked and asked me what do I study. I often end the convo too quickly not knowing whether I should stay and chat longer. "Can I have your number?" - I have a bf.

Before I left since library was going to close in a few mins. I wanted to walk her out. But didn't make the comment. I did however write my # and fb and name on a post it note and handed to her closed. Note also says "Merry Xmas!" She went back to studying when I turned around checking if she was going to open the note :)

Parking Lot
2. Walked passed. Saw her sitting, cute sexy skirt. Keep eyeing her to make sure she's hot lol. She looked a lot older but thanks to my recent approach at forever 21 age 27 hottie I went for it after she walked out waiting for her ride.

Normal intro and commented on her sexy professional outfit. She shit tests me by not answering my question directly. "What do you do?" Then I notice her schooching closer to me. Her arms were crossed though. Also noticed when I asked that question she turn back to face me and she knew it was on. That I was not the typical shy/awkward Asian guy trying to hit her up and failed.

Parents came. Dad didn't look happy. I wave and left. She wished me goodbye.

3. All of a sudden I'm in my car and I see a cuttie walk by. I went without hesitation. Knocked on her window glass passenger side. It's so cute cause she didn't expected it. Took awhile for her to notice. She points to herself.

Eventually window down ajar and she crawls over to passenger side as if I am about to speak so quietly. I love that move. Being dominant and having her crawl towards me. BF response. I say "That's cute..." and she said no I really do have a bf. It was funny how she crawled over and smiled and wasn't taken off scared or anything.

4. Walked to my car saw a blondie. Did a double glance she notices me. I went indirect going with my curisosity, "I'm doing a survey. What school do you go to?" I told her (___ College) she opens up and answer I make a comment and she's out.

Summary
3 Brunettes & 1 Blondie
Library is awesome. Approached inside library before and older chicks before really help. Those references are GOLD!