Muslim Service Notes / Resiliency Training

April 10, April 17, April 24  2016

CONTROL/Choice/FREEDOM

• 10% of people's happiness is what happens to them / 90% is how he or she reacts
• Don't try to control people; you can only control yourself
• you have control over your attitudes and behaviors
• "Training is easy." It's a built in habit. Things drilled or done daily. Has a pattern.
• Knowing what you don't like helps you understand what you'd rather do/like to do
• God is: Love, Knowing, Certainty

Proactive (Thinking) Vs. Reactive (Emotional)

Always think about the OUTCOME

Action > Outcome

• there are no actions without an outcome
• what is the outcome?
• think from the end
• when you think of the outcome you make better decisions
• visualize successful outcomes

The Beauty of Freedom is that you always have a choice no matter the status quo

Skill = Discipline; practice daily

Never blame others. Take 100% full responsibility and do the right thing. Instead of blaming/complaining, change your beliefs/mind. Your beliefs determine your life, happiness, attitude which is all a choice. Your beliefs can be a source of internal motivation. 

Freedom = Choice, so choose wisely

MIND AND BODY - You may be hurt physically but mentally you are strong

PRIORITIES

(it's your life). Have a # list of importance. Have order, a plan (see it)

KISS - keep it stupid simple. What does the Army expect me to do?

Be Humble (GRATITUDE)

Don't complain!

• Perspective taking
• There are homeless people without food + shelter
• Manage your attitude. Don't waste energy/time on negativity

1. Appreciate and value what you have in your life
2. Life is a gift
3. What are you thankful for? 
4. have an abundant mindset
5. What gets you up in the morning? (Purpose)

LOVE

Love is Universal: it's about loving everybody. Learn from everybody and everything. Love is your domain.

• not being exclusive but inclusive
• Love is a verb not a noun - Do it, don't just talk about it
• you cannot give what you don't have so experience it. Feel love first before giving it.

God is always Good. 

Do good and know God. Do bad and you don't know God. Why would you have hatred if you know God?

1. Eternal
2. no change
3. all-knowing
4. Loving 

PURPOSE/BELIEFS/Plan

The mind is everything; Focus on the PRESENT

*If you know what you want that's all it matters! You don't have to compete with others. Focus on competing with yourself*

• Define your purpose
• ask Q's
• find answers
• DO IT
• There is nothing that can stop you in life.You CAN do what you want.
• If you believe what you can do, you will do it 
• There are no limits in your mind - it is limitless
• Belief > Actions

Stop blaming others when you fail. You can't blame your DNA or genes, or your family. There are no traits called the shy trait or the stupid trait.

Everything starts with your: 

1. Beliefs (Certainty)

2. Actions

*"Don't let anyone change your beliefs or tell you how to live your life"

"Everything happens for a reason"

The Media fools you to FEAR and is BAD. Do not buy into it.

Problems/SOLUTIONS

If there is a problem, fix it. Do your part/take responsibility. Counsel - talk + deal with your problems

• Do your BEST!
• Don't limit yourself
• Don't listen to negativity
• Don't whine or make excuses
• Pay attention to details/signals before you make mistakes

Your Beliefs consists of what you want. "Ask and thou shall receive"

1. Pause
2. Think
3. Act

Win or Lose (*Secret)

• this is what society teaches
• if you learn from your problems/mistakes you always win
• you cannot lose if you learn something in the end

Negative vs Positive Spiral

problem 1 > problem 2 = downward spiral

achievement 1 > achievement 2 = upward spiral

You have two ears and one mouth. Listen more and talk less. Native Americans use the "talking stick" to take turns speaking with one another

REFLECT daily how you can do better (Self-Assessment)

VISUALIZE Success

Visualize Expectations  - "What does the Army expect from me as an Officer?" Visualize what I want. Create a mental imagery puzzle.

1. Wish 
2. Want it badly
3. Work for it

*Secret* Make them need you more than you need them. Make yourself valuable.

1. Think Positive
2. Be your real self
3. Don't complain, it's a choice

Success (Belief) = Purpose + Plan + Work + Persistence

• draw what you want
• see it often, remind yourself
• ask what you are doing to reach that outcome? (Great leaders ask great Q's)
• know why you want it

"There is nothing or no one who can stop you from getting what you want"