Mom Wants to Control my ass

Since I was born she doesn't leave me alone. Everything I want to do is rejected. I'm an artist and she's a traditional conservative. I listen to her and become effeminate. I When I ask for solutions she gives me no answers. She wants me to things that I don't agree with and she calls me out. I explain things to her in another perspective and she doesn't open up and used her old beliefs which hold her back to argue with me. Her wants are only of self-interest and does not promote growth. I resent her for being super selfish and do not think for my well-being or growth. She has low standards and I need to get out of my comfort zone and this house. He has blind spots when she doesn't want to hear something she'd ignore it. Sometimes I have to repeat things over and over just to get my point across and later she'd still.