Second time visiting a local temple outside of the city I live for work. I was lonely and didn't know anyone but two people in this city. I didn't want to bother them and felt I had nothing to offer.
My mother use to take me to temples even as an adult and so I thought I'd go to sight-see pretty much.
Anyway the people at this temple were super friendly, fun, and nice. I feel really accepted the first time I was her that I stayed to volunteered and helped them all day. It was a great and positive environment. I needed air and to get outside of my room. Met a young dude last week and a lot of older adults. Something I lack was initiative in taking action and knowing how to use tools but I stayed to observe and improve in this area plus I don't like to leave people hanging and just wanted things to be done before I leave.
They kept joking about some 24 year old girl they were going to introduce to me. I got to see a picture of her and I admit she was kind of cute.
Today, the second week she actually came and of course the adults joke again and make things silly and awkward but cute.
She is cute and easy to talk to. Not the typical boring, nice, polite girl I get the impression of for most Viet girls.
We finally were outside to get some privacy and we talked. Then moved her near the gate. Stood the whole time. All the pickup theory came rushing back into my head but I was so rusty and slow in reacting I just didn't do shit.
Talked some more - like c'mon get some water or go out to get drinks or something but nah just moved to the building and talk some more.
Was easy to talk to her and she picked up the convo many times. She's sweet and greets all the elders and gave them hugs.
Me not having a lot of experience with Asian girls or Viet girls this was new and yeah of course I was unprepared for it all.
The questions she asks me reminded me of screening for logistics: Where do you live? Do you live at home or alone? Blah blah blah. Haha omg I felt so inadequate after because I would compare myself with her experiences. And I get it I use to be like that when I was her age - wanting to leave home and be independent. I guess I failed there :(
Damn what I liked about her? She's cute / attractive. Smells good (perfume). Wakes up early morning to worksout ( rare for Viet girls to even workout). Social. Kind. She's pretty high on the scale or has a lot of potential.
I noticed several times she either insinuates she wants my social media or wants to hang out with me somewhere in Austin or that she wants more friends to hang out in Austin but I didn't know how to capitalize on these moments. Would have been good timing to trade contacts but I was rusty.
So the nun told us to help her do some laundry. She keeps saying I should go to the store before it gets late but I didn't want to leave her or leave her to do the chores alone. I didn't say anything and stayed to help.
Adults were being funny and on of them the most outspoken one was taking photos of us. This is too funny. I just tell her it's cool that we can make them laugh. She was really cool and wasn't nervous or anything.
I ended up getting her number at the very end when we walked to her car followed by her shaking my hand - nice to meet you (hug? I thought).
Reflections
So interacting with this girl was bittersweet. I enjoyed it overall and who wouldn't talking to a cute, intelligent, feminine chick who's kind of foreign to me. The bitter part is I am reminded how inadequate I am for not being a man who is living independently. She's a girl and she's going after what she wants moving away from home at an early age and I never did. She seems like a smart, outgoing, adventurous girl and reminds me of my younger self. I felt inadequate because girls like this need a good guy or a leader. If she had lived in the city she will be swooped up quickly I guarantee it.
Interacting with her really reminded me of all the PUA skills that I had learnt like being confident, funny, leading, dressing well, networking, and all (skills which declined because I haven't been on my Game).
I'm careful not to get oneitis but damn if I can't get any dating experience or date someone like her than who am I even compatible for? Nobody wants to date a 5 or lower. Being able to date a quality girl kind of gives me accountability to do better in life (that is if we do end up in a relationship). Women challenges me in a good way. Wants me to ask myself am I a capable man to take care of not only myself but another person? If a girl can live on her own than why can't I? What do I need to do to become a better man? Gets me thinking.
On another note - it sure is amazing to be away from home and randomly meet people and get introduced to people. It's the spice of life. I can't ever be at the same place meeting the same people who don't grow. I always need to be constantly learning and growing...
[This is pretty sloppy writing but it's been awhile...]
